My youngest, like me, is very excitable.
If he is happy he is liable to sing, laugh and smile, if he is angry he will shout, fight or throw things. People fighting back, broken possessions and regret is something I want to help him avoid.
Fortunately after many years trying to manage my emotions, I have found something that really works and I try the best I can to pass on what I have learnt.
As you can imagine, with an age difference of more than thirty-seven years it isn’t always easy for my son to believe that I know how he feels.
However he realizes he has to learn to master his temper and has discovered one thing I’ve said is true ‘If you get very angry with something or someone, it’s best to go and do something else for a while. Preferably something physical, and you will feel much calmer and in control.’
My son’s favorite cooling off activities are biking, skateboarding, kicking a ball around the garden or cooking.
I can honestly say that these days, at the tender age of thirteen he is quite cool; rather than breaking his pencil, because he made a mistake while drawing, or hitting his older brother for teasing him, he will go on his bike or skateboard, kick a ball around or cook up a meal or a cake.
One example of such anger management activity recently resulted in the lovely dish pictured.
He had become angry with me, because I refused to stop at the shops on the way home from school.
As soon as we arrived home and I had parked the car, he headed straight for the kitchen and the big knives. He pulled out the cutting board and was soon chopping onions and cutting peppers.
It wasn’t long before lovely smells filled the kitchen and he had a smile on his face. Cooking really doesn’t get better than this.
If you like to try this recipe for yourself or with your children – go for it! You will do lots of cutting, chopping, mashing and timing and the result is very tasty… Can’t wait to upset him again 🙂
You will need:
4 table spoons of olive oil.,1/2 Onion finely sliced, 1 green pepper cut into strips, 1 red pepper cut into strips,1 yellow pepper cut into strips, 2 garlic cloves crushed with a pinch of salt with a pestle and mortar, 1 tin of 400 g/14 oz chopped tomatoes drained, 2 tbs of fresh coriander chopped, 2 tbs green or black pitted olives chopped, salt and pepper.
For best result, use organic ingredients where possible.
Heat the oil in a large frying pan.
Add the onion and fry at medium temperature for 5 minutes stirring until just beginning to color.
Add the peppers and garlic to the pan and cook for a further 3-4 minutes . Stir in the tomatoes and coriander and season well with pepper and salt. Cover the pan and cook the vegetables gently for about 30 minutes or until the mixture is dry.
Stir in the olives and serve immediately.
Tip: You can serve it on it’s own, with eggs and chips or leave it to cool and use it as topping for your home made pizza.